No more sweating the small things.

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As I hit my seventies and suspect the number of years I have left here on planet Earth is probably a single digit, I have discovered a number of things. One of them is that fewer things irritate me.

I used to hate mimes. Now, I couldn’t care less. I don’t see a big call for mimes nowadays, so personally I don’t think it is a very good career choice. If a mime wants to waste his time pretending he can’t talk or hear and is locked in an invisible box, it is his choice. I can name all the mimes I know on just one finger: Marcel Marceau. The only way a mime can irritate me is if she blocks my way, but that’s less about her being a mime and more about her just being in my way.

Spending six bucks for a cup of coffee doesn’t bother me anymore, I just don’t buy it. When I think back, I can’t believe how much money I wasted on this hot, brown liquid. Surely there were better things I could have spent my hard-earned money on. I figure there must be a lot of money to be made selling coffee in this day and age, as evidenced by the number of Starbucks, Tim Horton’s and Dunkin’ Donuts stores around.
People don’t annoy me as much any more. They used to, but I have learned to turn and walk away. There is no reason to let someone else raise my blood pressure; I realize that arguing is senseless. As long as I know I am right, I don’t have to prove it to anyone else. Sometimes silence is the best rebuttal.
Internet trolls used to irk me, but now they don’t. If they have the time to read an article like this one in its entirety and then spend more time composing a comment to let me know that reading my post was a big waste of their time, that my opinion was wrong and that I am an idiot for posting it, I feel sorry for them. I now see the humor in their derogatory responses, and I admit I will sometimes post a passive-aggressive reply just to fan the flames. Yes, this is just the opposite of walking away, but I am entitled to have some fun.
People telling me to have a nice day used to bug me. OK, having someone tell me to have a nice day is acceptable, but I don’t need it regurgitated at me as company policy. It is much better if the sentiment is heartfelt. These days I try to get ahead of every clerk, cashier and server and tell them to have a nice day before they drop this plastic sentiment on me. I have gotten quite good at discerning when someone is going to say this to me and have made it my own personal game of verbal one-upmanship to beat them to the draw.
It used to irritate me when someone stayed angry with me. I finally figured out this was their way of trying to maintain control over me. Now I will take responsibility for my actions and apologize if I have wronged or hurt someone. I will offer to make it right, but if they hold a grudge past that, I no longer have the time to worry about it. I’ve had a lifetime of drama already. It will probably eat at them longer than I will be around. In my mind, the problem has been resolved and the kerfuffle associated with it will have taken off like an arsonist from a fire.
Aggressive drivers no longer annoy me. If I have someone sitting on my rear bumper, I will purposely slow down and let them pass. Obviously their time is more important than mine. During the winter, I used to tell Thruway drivers, “See you in the ditch” as they sped by — and on more than one occasion I was right. I never realized I was doing this until I was driving with my daughter in the winter one day, someone flew by us and she said, “See you in the ditch.” My jaw hit the floor. She said she had learned this from me. Oh well, there are worse things she could have learned from me.

Telemarketers who “spoof” their phone numbers used to rub me the wrong way, but I have learned how to have fun with them, too. I sometimes tell them they are “on the air” and ask whether they know the radio KRZY word of the day. Occasionally, I will ask if they are calling about my lost dog. I seldom get this all out before I hear a dial tone.
Once I even told a spammer I had to put him on hold, then I put the phone down on my end table, went to my kitchen and had lunch. When I got back he had hung up. I think this is more effective than asking to be put on a “Do Not Call” list because, once burned, they seldom call back.
In short, I no longer sweat the small things, and this has made my life a whole lot easier.
But as I look at it now, most things are small things.

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Please Won’t You Be My Neighbor

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Won’t you please, won’t you please, please won’t you be my neighbor?

It’s a beautiful day to talk about Mister Rogers. Fifteen years after the legendary host of a children’s TV program passed away, the entertainment world is being swept up in Fred Rogers revivalism. I know Mister Rodgers’ Neighborhood was written for preschoolers but I liked this much more than any of the children’s shows airing now days that are frequently just thinly veiled sales pitches. I actually enjoyed watching Mr. Rodgers’ Neighborhood with my grandchildren.

First, there was director Morgan Neville’s filmed documentary called “Won’t You Be My Neighbor?” Those who have watched it feel obligated to caution people who haven’t seen it to bring a box of tissues because there will be tears. Neville wasn’t trying to keep viewers crying from start to finish, blame the documentary’s subject, who’s so kind that his very presence effects even the most cynical viewers.

But the documentary isn’t the only tribute to Fred Rogers making the rounds. Not long after “Won’t You Be My Neighbor?” debuted at the Sundance film festival, TriStar Pictures declared plans to film a biopic, with Tom Hanks playing Rogers that is based on Tom Junod’s classic 1998 Esquire article about his friendship with the TV host.

PBS, home of Mister Rogers’ Neighborhood from 1968 until 2000, aired the 50th anniversary tribute to Fred Rogers, hosted by Michael Keaton, “It’s You I Like” On March 20 which was Rogers’ 90th birthday. Twitch, a live streaming video platform owned by Twitch Interactive, a subsidiary of Amazon, teamed with PBS to launch a marathon of 90 of the most well-liked episodes of Mister Rogers’ Neighborhood. This was followed by a complete run of the series. For those still into cds, “Mister Rogers’ Neighborhood: It’s A Beautiful Day” collection collects over 900 minutes of classic episodes and moments. It arrived in stores on March 27.

I think that vintage Mister Rogers’ Neighborhood is as relevant now as it once was. Mister Rogers’ Neighborhood was created for preschoolers. There are obvious differences concerning what toddlers and older children need to see on TV.

When Fred Rogers felt a calling to work in television instead of as an ordained Presbyterian minister. His goal was to make something more tranquil than what young children were watching when their parents set them down to watch TV. Mister Rogers’ Neighborhood doesn’t over stimulate children. He speaks slowly and softly in simple sentences and even during the times that the show goes to the palace of King Friday XIII, populated by puppets, the stories are muted in tone, without violence, and deliver lessons about proper behavior. This is a far cry from “The Roadrunner” cartoons that I used to watch as a child.

So why is everybody so in love with Mister Rogers? It’s partly nostalgia. I’ve long felt that our desire to return to the shows we grew up with has to do with the belief that those were the good old days. Our memories of the past are so imprecise sometimes. Revisiting popular culture of the past can help clarify memories that we’ve forgotten.

What stands out about Mister Rogers’ Neighborhood is the general calmness and simplicity. Rogers understood that occasionally adults assume too much about what kids comprehend, or that they are too rushed to talk to children about the basics of life. So he would explain everything from the functioning of the human body to the reason some real-world events upset grown-ups. His primary message was that everyone feels helpless, overwhelmed, ignorant, or even angry sometimes. That emotions are part of being alive and that being alive is great.

Rogers’ persona and ideals were under attack just before he died. Right-wing talk radio hosts, columnists, and TV commentators accused the “softness” and “entitlement” of Generation X on the immorality of Mister Rogers, who told kids they were special, no matter what. Their disagreement with Fred Rogers’ life’s work is that it persuaded children they didn’t need to achieve anything.

That criticism isn’t totally wrong. But it’s more than a little wrong. It’s usually coming from commentators who identify themselves as conservative Christians. Rogers’ view of the world was connected to his theology, and to the Christian theory of “grace.” This idea is that we are all broken, but that we are loved and matter to God. That’s a fundamental belief held by many Christians.

It’s not a position or perspective we see coming from a TV personality very often. That is also a part of the charm of Fred Rogers. To try and make Mister Rogers’ Neighborhood political is just wrong. Fred Rogers used this show to promote inclusion for people of all backgrounds, races, and capabilities.

I read an unverified story once about Mr. Rogers. It is alleged that one day his car was stolen while parked on a street in Pittsburgh. The evening news reported that Mr. Rogers’ car had been stolen that night. The next day, it was back in the same spot with a note that said, “Sorry, we didn’t know it was yours.”  Whether the story is true or not, that is part of the way Fred Rodgers made us feel. He gave us the impression that we were part of his family.

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Protecting your idenity

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Given all the hacks and data breaches these days, you should probably presume that your personal data has already been exposed. That it is on the dark web, known by criminals and they are either going to sell your data to other criminals or scheming to use it themselves. However, there are sound personal identity practices you can use to protect your identity from online thieves. Guarding against Identity theft is a responsibility, as well as a struggle every day.

You must protect your Social Security number (SSN). You will live in many different places in your life, you will have different account numbers, but you will always have the same Social Security number. Guard your Social Security number like the valuable product that it is. Be extremely careful in providing your Social Security Number to anyone and be sure that the person you are giving it to has a valid reason for needing it.

Never give out your SSN to anyone that calls on the phone unless you know the person. You shouldn’t just give your number to someone who calls “from (your doctor’s) office” that you don’t know.  Hang up and call the doctor’s office to see if they called and have a legitimate need for this number. Also don’t send your SSN to any website. The only websites that should need your SSN are the Social Security website or other government websites.

Beware of clicking on a website sent to you in an email. Phony websites are set up that mimic genuine websites. The safest thing to do is to type the web address (URL) into your browser.

You must consider your passwords and privacy settings very seriously. Granted, it is a real pain to use robust, complicated passwords, changing them frequently, and keeping your privacy settings set to high on your online accounts. It’s a much bigger problem to be the object of an identity fraud.

Be very, very careful what you share on social media. Social media sites are a fantastic place to connect with friends and family to let them know about what is going on in your life. They are also wonderful places to post your personal information that will aid thieves unintentionally or to let thieves know that you are on vacation so that they can visit your house and clean you out.

Review your credit report and credit card statements periodically. Make sure that you regularly check your credit report for fake accounts that are created using your identity. Sometimes a thief will make a small charge on your credit card account to see how closely you check your bill. You can check your credit score and read your credit report for free within minutes using several free websites

Mailboxes are a prime target for criminals. Most are left unattended with personal mail in them including financial information or credit card applications for at least part of the day. Don’t leave your outgoing bills in the mailbox. The raised flag notifies criminals that there is something inside to steal. If it is a payment, they will be able to get your bank account information off your check. For incoming mail, consider a locking mailbox that denies thieves easy access. Shred all discarded mail containing personal and account information instead of just throwing it out.

Watch what you do outside your home. Don’t leave your credit or debit card out in plain sight while making payments in stores. Don’t fill out deposit slips at the bank with your account information available to anyone looking over your shoulder. Don’t forget to cover the keyboard as you type in your PIN at your local ATM. Be careful when you connect to websites or apps through unsecure public Wi-Fi spots and transmit any personal information. All of these actions can give thieves access to your personal data.

Criminals that may already have your personal information will attempt to file a bogus tax form in an attempt to get your refund, before you even find out that your information has been stolen. Beat them to the punch by filing your return electronically as soon as you have all the required information.

Frequently you will get emails and solicitations just because your email address was in the address book of one of your friends whose accounts were hacked. This has happened to us. Phony Facebook accounts can be cloned and all the contacts of one of your friends can be compromised. Your “friend” will then send you a message sending you to a dangerous website. Either that or you will get a “Friend Request” from them. You can’t make everyone use the same level of protection that you do, but you can let them know how important it is to of do so.

Once you start thinking like a crook and look at all of the possibilities for personal information theft, you can make yourself safer. No strategy is air tight, but a good identity protection plan can go a long way in reducing your chances of becoming a victim of identity theft or fraud and having to deal with months or possibly years of trying to restore your credit.

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Let it Snow, let it snow, let it snow

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As I watch the devastation from hurricanes, forest fires and volcanoes this year I realize that Buffalo is ideally situated. We don’t suffer mud slides, tornadoes, avalanches, massive flooding and earth quakes that the rest of the country seems to go through.

I mean, just how many times must you lose your car, your house, your furniture and all your personal possessions and go right back to the same exact spot to rebuild before you realize the weather gods are telling you to move?

I may get a bit of water in my basement during a heavy rain but I am fortunate that it never gets over a few inches deep. I put my washer and dryer on pallets, my furnace and water heater are on a concrete pad and they all stay high and dry.

The water I get doesn’t even compare to floods, having storm surges or a tsunami flood my home up to the second story windows. I’m glad I don’t live in a coastal area or on a flood plain.

I can’t imagine returning to the place your home used to be to find a tornado had sucked it up, leaving a pile of kindling behind and taking everything else with it.

I like watching this extreme weather on TV but I don’t want to see it out my window. Every time I watch something like this, I thank my lucky stars that I live in the Greater Buffalo Area (GBA). I feel sorry for the people that are forced to live in these disaster prone areas due to economic reasons, but I think, after being battered several times, even those people would find a way to move. And as usual, I will donate to various disaster relief charities, hoping that my measly donation will make someone’s life just a little better.

The winters aren’t all that bad in Buffalo except for “the Blizzard of ’77”. Say these 5 words to someone older than 40 who lived in Buffalo during this and I can guarantee they have a tale or two to tell you.

I was working at Buffalo Milkbone on Fougeron Street at the time and my trip on Thursday, the day before “The Storm of the Century” officially hit, it took me four hours to commute from home, a trip I could usually make in under an hour.  After work, I fought my way back home and hunkered down there.

Sure Buffalo winters can get cold, they can get windy and they can get snowy but most of that is gone by late March. The snow piles have melted, even in the parking lots, the salt is washed off your car and the flowers are blooming.

I didn’t mind bundling up and going out to clear up my walks and driveway in the winter, I actually enjoyed it. In fact I would snow blow my place and a few neighbor’s driveways. Then I would head up and down my block cleaning my neighbor’s sidewalks.  When they were out shoveling, they would do the same thing for me. It was just a neighborly thing to do.

I may get a bit of water in my basement during a heavy rain but I am fortunate that it never gets over a few inches deep. I put my washer and dryer on pallets and my furnace and water heater are on a concrete pad, they stay high and dry. The water I get doesn’t even compare to having a storm surge, a flood or a tsunami flood my home up to the second story windows. I’m glad I don’t live in a coastal area or on a flood plain.

Buffalo may be cold and snowy but like ex-mayor Jimmy Griffin said “Stay inside, grab a six-pack, and watch a good football game,” The 49ers and Dolphins played in the Super Bowl during the Blizzard of 77. Griffin was caught on a Channel 7 camera saying. “Have a six-pack handy so you can enjoy yourself. Don’t take this too seriously.”

One thing that I do like about living in the Greater Buffalo Area is that when I get out of work and drive back home, my house is exactly where I left it.

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The Evolution of Telephones

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As a child I remember being one of the first families on our block to have a telephone. All the neighbors came over to marvel at this shiny piece of black plastic that connected us to the world. The phone had it’s very own piece of furniture in our dining room that consisted of a small table with a chair attached so you could sit while you were talking on the phone.

Back then you could dial “O” for the Operator and you would be immediately connected to a pleasant sounding girl for free. Now days if you dial “O” you have to navigate a recorded answering system to try to get in touch with the operator. You will eventually get hold of an operator but it’s going to cost you.

Our phone was connected to a party line. No, I don’t mean one of those 1-800 numbers advertised on late night television. A party line was a telephone circuit that was shared by several telephone subscribers.  Your phone would ring whenever anyone on your party line would receive a call but every user had an individual ring pattern to let you know if the caller had dialed your number.

There was no privacy on a party line. If you were on the phone with someone, anyone on your party line could pick up their telephone and listen in. Also, if anyone on your party line was using their phone, you could not make a call. There were laws that required all parties to hang up if someone announced that they had an emergency but that didn’t mean everyone complied and it didn’t prevent someone from telling you they had an emergency every time they wanted to make a call.

The other problem was if someone on your party line was busy chatting, nobody could reach your phone, they would instead hear a busy signal.  To prevent these problems subscribers would pay an extra monthly fee to upgrade to a private line.

A rotary dial telephone would have a number card installed in the center of the dial plate. This would enable whoever was using the phone to know what number they were calling from. Our original phone number consisted of a two letter exchange followed by four numbers. The printed label on our phone number read “AREA CODE 716 / AMherst 5964”. To call us, you would use the rotary dial to dial the A, the M, followed by the four numbers. Other exchanges I remember were PArkside and MOhawk. By deciphering these exchanges, you could tell where the number you were calling was located.

Eventually, Buffalo converted to a seven digit phone number (two letters and five numbers). This was met with a great deal of consternation in our house because you now had to learn all new phone numbers. I failed to see what the problem was because our number just changed to TF2-5964. Buffalo was allegedly one of the last major cities in the United States to changeover from six digit to seven digit telephone numbers.

At one point, Bell Telephone sent out a small “Blue book” that would fit in your wallet to keep your important numbers. Mine was filled with girl’s names with a coded rating system. Eventually, the phone companies dropped the letters in the phone numbers and just went all numbers.

When you moved, no matter how far, even just next door, you had to get a new phone number. You couldn’t take your old number with you. When we moved to Getzville, a suburb of Buffalo our new number was 688-9473. Today you can take your phone number with you if you move within the area code, the number belongs to you.

You rented the phone and the phone wires in your house on top of your monthly service bill but in the early 70’s, you could buy your phone and the wiring and eliminate the monthly rental charge. You could also buy a phone of your choosing at the store and wire it up to your “Interface” yourself.

I wired several phones in my house and had a phone hookup in every room except for the bath room. I even had one in the basement and two in my man cave in the attic. The difference between renting the phone and wiring and owning them was if you owned them and had a problem and it turned out to be a problem in your house, the phone company would gladly bill you for the repairs.

The area code used to let you know where a number you called was located geographically. But these days, due to cell phones, even area codes don’t mean a thing. We have friends in North Carolina that moved from Lockport that still have a 716 area code on their cell phones. I have a granddaughter in Denver Colorado that has a 716 area code on her cell phone also. Calling both of these people is a “local” call despite the long distances that separate us.

Yes, phones have come a long way since those phone booths on the corner. The days of being able to get a phone in any color you wanted as long as it was black. The days of rotary dials and party lines are gone. Communication has never been easier but we seem to have lost just sitting down and talking with each other face to face.

Norb is a septuagenarian (look it up) from Lockport. He has seen a lot of water go over the dam.

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The evolution of television in Buffalo

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I’ve seen numerous changes in television. My Father worked in the model shop at Sylvania, a prominent radio tube manufacturer and he brought home our first television set which was a converted 5 inch oscilloscope. To imagine the size of this television screen, visualize trying to watch a program on a screen a little larger than the top of a cottage cheese container.

We had a variety of different experimental television sets in our house. One of the first sets was a set with “Halo Vision” which had a softly lit border around the screen. This was supposed to make it easier on your eyes when you watched it. Another one I remember was in a cabinet. To watch this one, you propped open the hinged top of the cabinet and watched the image in a mirror. Everything on the CRT screen was reversed so it was the right way in the mirror when you watched it. The problem with this one was you had to sit directly in front of it to see the picture.

I remember watching television with my family and you didn’t dare say a word.  We watched “You Bet Your Life” with Groucho Marx, an American quiz show. Groucho would say, “Say the secret word and split a hundred dollars,” as each contest began, and a mangy stuffed duck named Julius (Groucho’s real name) would drop from the ceiling to disclose the secret word if they said it. There was I Love Lucy starring Lucille Ball, Have Gun Will Travel with “Paladin” as a hired gun, Dragnet with “Sgt. Joe Friday” and the tag line “only the names have been changed to protect the innocent”, The Cisco Kid, and The Howdy Doody Show (my favorite).

Television first made it to Buffalo in 1948 when WBEN-TV started broadcasting. The Buffalo Evening News owned this station. They played early local shows like “The Clue”. The Clue starred Buffalo Evening News Radio and TV writer Jim Tranter who played the Private Eye, Steve Malice. This was the first weekly dramatic program ever seen on U.S. television. They also televised “Meet the Millers” which offered a mix of cooking tips and interviews along with cornball humor, “The Santa Claus Show”,   and “Uncle Jerry’s Club”, a children’s talent show. Announcer John Corbett also offered local viewers one of television’s first talk shows, “Speaker of the House” which aired during weekday afternoons. My parents told me one of the first things I said was Bee Bee Bubba York. They finally figured out I wanted to watch WBEN, Buffalo, New York.

In 1954, WGR-TV (Channel 2) started broadcasting, with a stable of talent that included Bill Mazer, an American television and radio personality who earned the nickname “The A-Maz-In” for his deep knowledge of sports trivia. Billy Keaton from the Mr. and Mrs. Show an adapted Vaudeville routine, Helen Neville, hostess of “Two for Breakfast “, Roy Kerns, News Anchor, and Jack Mahl, “Your Atlantic weatherman”.

Buffalo’s TV stations increased to three in 1958 when WKBW-TV (Channel 7) signed on. Programming included daily doses of “Rocketship 7” with Dave Thomas as “Commander Tom”, “Dialing for Dollars”, a show where random phone calls were made trying to give away money and had syndicated features from “The Galloping Gourmet”, Graham Kerr. Starting in 1965, the Channel 7 anchor trio of newsman Irv Weinstein, sportscaster Rick Azar and weatherman Tom Jolls started, they became the longest-running news team in the history of television, broadcasting a sensational 24 years together on the early and late newscasts.

WBUF-TV (Channel 17) went on the air in 1953 and was a short-lived undertaking, then it returned in 1956 as an NBC-owned outlet before shutting down in 1958. In 1959, a revamped Channel 17, renamed WNED-TV, became New York State’s very first noncommercial, public TV station.

WUTV-TV (Channel 29), which started broadcasting in 1970. This was owned by Ultravision Broadcasting Company. Ultravision was owned by Stan Jasinski, radio’s polka king. During the 1980s, two additional Buffalo stations began transmitting, WNYB-TV (Channel 49, now WNYO-TV) and public, noncommercial WNEQ (Channel 23).

Many channels would sign off in the early hours and would broadcast a “test pattern” over the airwaves until regular morning programming would commence.

Although all-electronic color television was introduced in the U.S. during 1953, prohibitive prices and the shortage of programs being broadcast in color slowed its acceptance greatly in the marketplace. The very first national color broadcast was the Tournament of Roses Parade which was aired on January 1, 1954, but for the next ten years few network broadcasts were in color with nearly all local programming continuing to be aired in black and white.

We now have 85 inch televisions and the size keeps growing and growing and you can control them from your phone. We have hundreds of stations broadcasting 24/7. You can now watch television programs on demand from your computer, laptop, tablet and smart phone. I can only imagine where television will take us in the future.

September is National Prostate Health Month.

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Prostate cancer is the second leading cause of cancer death in men in the United States. It is estimated that 29,430 deaths from this disease will occur this year. Most prostate cancer is preventable with proper screening. A simple blood test and an exam by your primary care doctor is usually all you need. I am hoping that by telling my story I can help save at least one person.

In June of 2009 I went to my doctor with food poisoning and casually mentioned that I was going to the bathroom frequently at night. He gave me an exam and said he didn’t like what he found. He suggested I have a biopsy of the prostrate, despite the fact my PSA was within normal range. I went under general anesthesia and they took 12 samples. Seven of the 12 samples came back positive for cancer. I was quickly scheduled for surgery to have the prostate removed.

The surgeon who removed my prostrate told me two things. First off, he said if I had come to him first, he wouldn’t have recommended the surgery as my PSA was lower than his. Second, he told me that I had a very aggressive, fast spreading form of cancer and if I had waited 2 to 4 weeks, he wouldn’t have been able to save me. Even with the surgery I still needed radiation. My recovery was not easy and I was off work for almost 7 months. I had filed for FMLA and was surprised at how supportive the company I worked for was.

The past 10 years have been filled with ups and downs. I’ve had 1 surgery that required hospitalization and 4 ambulatory surgeries. I’ve had 2 biopsies, have been to 3 different hospitals and have been treated by over half a dozen new doctors. I’ve had CAT scans, PET scans, MRIs, X rays and sonograms. I’ve had 5 cycles of chemo, three rounds of radiation and hormone therapy. I’ve had 2 deep vein thrombosis, 2 pulmonary embolisms and now have a mediport in my chest and a permanently installed Greenfield filter. I had so many procedures and had taken so many drugs I keep a small notebook.

In 2012 the cancer metastasized in the fatty tissue below my liver which was eliminated with radiation. Then in 2014, I was told I had stage 4 cancer, this time in the lymph nodes in my lower abdomen and in my chest near my windpipe. We began chemotherapy. The spring and summer of 2014 was a scary time. The chemo weakened me immensely. I would have one week where I was either bedridden or in the hospital, then a week where I was barely functional.  I would then have a third week that I was kind of OK before I had chemo again. My medi-port caused further complications with blood clots.

It seemed like I was either bed ridden or in the hospital from complications for most of May and June of 2014 and was actually admitted to the hospital 3 times in June. Even with the chemo we weren’t making the progress we were hoping for. Dr. Yi from CCS said that I should try more radiation to treat the hot spots because I always responded well to it. Thankfully I did.

In the fall of 2014 the radiation along with a daily self-administered dose of chemo won!  Although they said the cancers were gone, and there were no new hot spots, I am still taking the daily chemo and will always need to be vigilant.

My support network has been phenomenal. I think of is as the ripples you get when you throw a stone in a pond. The first ripple is my wife, who has said she is finally glad I am as stubborn as I am. Without her love, help and support, I could not have made it. Then come my children, which include my daughter in law Heidi who are behind me 100%, constantly pushing me up yet another hill I have to climb.

Third ripple is my grandchildren, who pull me along by bringing me immeasurable joy, laughs and love. Next I have friends and relatives who have shown me their true colors by their actions and support.

The following ripple is the many, many medical personnel, who with their skill and dedication, have enabled me to survive the worst thing that has ever happened to me.

After that comes the place I worked at, who supported me every way possible. From flexible work hours to working from home and time off when I need it.

Finally I have the people that shovel my snow, cut my grass and help me without being asked. I appreciate these acts of kindness more than I can say.

Sharing my story is important to me so I can let others know cancer is just one word not a sentence, that winning against the impossible is possible and that they are not alone in their fight. I implore every man young or old to undergo prostate cancer testing by having a blood test and an exam by your doctor. Don’t be one of the 29,000, your family and friends need you.

Norb is a writer that lives in Lockport but grew up in Buffalo. After living in Fall River Mass. for a few years during his time in the Navy, he returned to his beloved Western New York. You can write him at nrug@juno.com

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The quagmire that is Medicare

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I am a senior citizen and I am well aware of the health care minefield ahead for some baby boomers. I have a few suggestions on how to navigate thru this to share. Start your healthcare planning well before you plan on retiring so you don’t have a lapse in medical coverage.

I have found that when it comes to a Medicare plan, there are so many options that it might be hard to select the best plan for yourself.  You may be the type of person who goes to the doctor once a year or you might have a history of health issues. You might talk with your doctor and see which type of plan they recommend. They are possibly the best judge of your insurance needs.

I called the big three insurance plans in the Buffalo area for guidance. One of them said I could come down to their offices and discuss my options with them. That wasn’t going to happen. If you want my business you should come to me not make me waste two hours of my time driving to give you my money. The second company sent me a tome that made “War and Peace” seem small and told me to figure it out myself. The third carrier sent out a representative to explain all my options and help me select the best plan based on my medical history. Guess which company got my business.

Original Medicare with a Medicare Supplement or a Medicare Advantage plan may fit your needs. The state of New York offers a drug plan for seniors called The Elderly Pharmaceutical Insurance Coverage (EPIC) program. This is administered by the NYS Department of Health. This is generally less expensive than any commercial offering.

I was concerned about what will happen if I made the wrong choice by enrolling in a Medicare Advantage plan and needed to return to Original Medicare with a Medicare Supplement. There are protections in place for this type of situation. A Medicare rule from the Medicare & You Handbook says: “If you join a Medicare Advantage Plan for the first time, and you aren’t happy with the plan, you’ll have special rights to buy a Medigap policy if you return to Original Medicare within 12 months of joining.”

There are many ways that a Medicare recipient can change their Medicare plans during Medicare’s Annual/Open Enrollment. You can purchase a Part D Medicare Prescription Drug Plan or change from one plan to another. You can change from the Medicare Advantage Plan that you have to a different Medicare Advantage Plan. You could even return to Original Medicare.

It might surprise some people to know that Medicare is not free, that if you want to get a Medicare supplement policy (Medigap), there is also a premium that you need to pay over and above the Medicare part B premium and other premiums that you are paying. Medigap is priced differently based on different situations. This might also add to your confusion. Premiums that you will pay should be clear as you decide which Medicare options you will get. To help you with understanding the costs you can head on to freemedsuppquotes.com/learn-the-basics/cost-Medicare-supplement.

I get social security, however I have to pay for Medicare right off the top of my monthly distribution. Then I have a supplemental insurance that I pay for monthly. The state of New York has a senior citizen drug program called Elderly Pharmaceutical Insurance Coverage or EPIC that I also pay for, to help with my prescriptions.  You would think that after paying for all this I would have absolutely no bills for medical treatment but nooooooo.

I have worked hard my entire life, have paid my taxes faithfully, including social security since I started working at 18. I also saved as much money as possible investing in IRAs, 401Ks and pensions anticipating a comfortable retirement. I took my social security at age 66 so I could get my full social security “Benefit” (there’s an oxymoron, I paid into this fund how is this now called a “benefit” it’s not like they are giving me something, they are just giving my money back to me).

Having insufficient income is a problem that faces many seniors. A 2016 survey by the Transamerica Center for Retirement Studies finds that baby boomers—those born between 1946 and 1964—have median retirement savings of $147,000. This falls short of the amount they will need.

Seniors worry about paying for healthcare and having enough left over for food, taxes, etc. People like myself are faced with the problem of paying for necessary medical appointments, co-pays, drugs and basic living expenses. Do we leave the air conditioning off to save money? Do we leave the furnace turned down to save on our gas bill? Do we buy our drugs instead of food? These are questions that no one should have to be concerned with.

We provide free health care to people on public assistance but not to senior citizens. Applying for Medicare also has to be made easier. If you can enroll in less than 2 trips you are lucky. A high quality, cradle to grave health care system for everyone would take away one of America’s biggest headaches. The American system is broken and needs to be fixed.

Norb is a senior citizen living in Lockport. He can be reached at nrug@juno.com.

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